You have just gathered the courage to dump the worst boyfriend ever. You have done all you can to try and keep them out of your mind. They are no longer on your social media or contacts. In fact, you have done as much as block them completely.
Having read all those books and advice on getting over the ex, you have done it all. The crying, the drinking, hanging out with your friends, traveling, a new hobby. But then, once in a while, you find yourself going down memory lane wondering what you could have done differently. You even blame yourself for things not working out.
So you go unblock your ex and start checking out his profile. Did he move on already!!! And before you know it, you have begun the grieving process again. So you go through the whole cycle again. So what should you do?
Tips on getting over the worst boyfriend ever
The best advice for moving on that you will never hear is: You need to get back into the dating scene. Some people discourage this calling it a rebound relationship. Let’s be realistic here. Every day that goes by that you are seated there moping and wondering whether the time is right for you to get on the dating game, you are preventing yourself from meeting a potential dream partner.
Some people may have approached you. And even before giving them a chance to go on a first date, you shrug them off with the excuse: “I am just getting over a bad break-up and am not ready to start dating”. Don’t look for excuses not to get yourself out there. Let go of the fear of getting your heart broken. He might have been the worst boyfriend ever, but not everyone is. Start dating again and get over him!
Would you consider introducing naughty games in the bedroom to spice up your love life?
There are times in a relationship when things can become pretty bland. That doesn’t mean that all is lost. If you want to actively salvage things, there are very many things that a couple can do to spice up their relationship. And introducing some bedroom games into your sexual relationship is one way to go about it.
There are so many games you and your partner can play together which can add that well-deserved excitement and rush. How about trying some of these and see if you how you will blow each other’s minds!
3 naughty games ideas to consider
1. The betting game.
Betting games can be great in the bedroom. As a couple, you can decide to bet on anything. Come up with the terms of the bet and let the challenge began.
The idea here is to keep it as naughty as you possibly can. For instance, you can decide to bet who can make the other person come faster when going down on them. Go with the 69 position and get on with it. Who is going to win this one? Such a game will guarantee pleasure and the rush your sex life requires. Plus, are there really losers in such a game? You tell me.
2. Endurance games
Now, this is where you let your imagination roll with you. Bring in your fetishes like being spanked, blindfolded or being tied up. Try it out in order to establish ground rules. Much as its an endurance game, as a couple, you need to come up with safe words when things get a little too rough.
It doesn’t have to be all rough though. You can decide to see how many back to back orgasms one can endure before saying enough! Push each other to the limits.
Try out these naughty games ideas out and see for yourself. You might just earn the title of sex guru.
The Silver Screen has given us millions of love stories over the years. Since the dawn of the art of theatre, people portrayed relationships. The cinema has brought to life relationships through the magic of filmography and in the beginning, relationships were exclusively single colored. In the recent years, nevertheless, mainly in the 90s, moviegoers had the chance to become witnesses of interracial couples portrayed on the silver screen. As time goes by, interracial couples are becoming more and more common as people become more and more accepting of the concept of interracial dating. Fortunately, the silver screen is becoming more and more colorful.
When you hear the first words of “I will always love you”, performed by Whitney Houston the first thing you think about is the movie: “The Bodyguard”. This was one of the most famous romance movies of the 90s with interracial couples and an unforgettable soundtrack. Within this movie, an interracial couple is slowly falling in love with a whole lot of adventures.
An unlikely relationship forms between a black man and a white woman when a man gets into an affair with the woman. When the man then gets into a relationship with the woman things get blurry. The relationship seems to be condemned by the couple’s environment because of its interracial nature. Wesley Snipes and Annabella Sciorra give some amazing performances and through this movie, they highlight the struggles of interracial couples within the society.
An adrenaline-packed movie with Will Smith and Margot Robbie. The femme fatale portrayed by Margot Robbie enters the life of a veteran and changes things up. Through an action-packed adventure, the couple discovers more and more information about each other and love slowly enters their lives. The relationship goes through its ups and downs and they end up spending some time apart. But something brings them back together in the end. Maybe love itself wants them to be together?
Maid in Manhattan
Two people from different worlds come together for one night and discover one secret about each other. Jennifer Lopez and Ralph Fiennes give us a dreamy night of romance and they show us a story of two people that are falling in love, mistake or not. A maid and a politician end up falling in love after an identity mix-up, a rather unlikely love story unfolds in the movie “Maid in Manhattan” with a scenario that incorporates interracial couples in the plot.
A thriller movie based around interracial couples. Romance is not very apparent in the span of this movie. A controversial plot explores taboo subjects that involve interracial dating and as time goes by, things just get weirder and weirder. With jaw-dropping twists, an interracial couple goes through it, and things don’t go as planned. “Get Out” is definitely not family friendly and not something everyone will like, so, watching with caution is advised.
Most people believe that finding your soulmate is a difficult task. This is probably because of the high numbers of divorces and singles. But if you think about it, we are looking at all this wrong.
They say the divorce rate is about 40%. But, why are we focusing on divorces? What about the 60% successful marriages? That 60% says that the chances of finding your soulmate are higher than we care to imagine, right?
Away from all that, let’s talk about finding an interracial partner… an interracial soulmate. Is it easy? I believe it is.
First off, there has been a significant rise in interracial relationships over the past two decades. And those documented are the marriages. And all this can be attributed to the rise in interracial dating websites. The beauty of such websites is that they assist people to locate a person who comes from a race they prefer.
So how does searching for an interracial soulmate on an interracial site differ from searching for love on, say, Tinder or Bumble?
Tinder is one popular site that focuses on people meeting for a date. So chances are, you will be focusing on meeting people near you for a date, a hookup… Mainly it’s all about living in the now.
Now, if you are searching for an interracial soulmate, it’s better to use an interracial dating service. This is because, there, you not only focus on meeting locals but you have the opportunity to meet anyone from any part of the world.
Below are some tips to help you maximize your search for finding that ideal interracial soulmate for you.
We live in a vain world. So your picture is the first thing that will draw people to you. Don’t leave your profile faceless. People will ignore it. Take a great picture of yourself. If you can, avoid selfies. Ask a friend to take it for you instead. Make sure its fresh… not one from your drunken college days. Also, have more than one picture on your profile that shows you enjoying a hobby or the outdoors.
State what you want on your profile.
If you prefer, say, black men, then check the box of “preferred ethnicity” as black. That way, you get matched with people whom you are attracted to. It makes your search less hectic. Do not forget to mention in details, the kind of person you are looking for character wise.
Don’t limit yourself to age or location of a preferred mate.
Most people might check the age box as 18-25 for instance. Well, doing that locks out people who are slightly above 25 (26-30) who might actually be the perfect mate for you. Some also state that they are looking for someone locally, forgetting that the ideal mate could be someone who might be willing to relocate for the right person.
Be flexible on these two. It increases your odds of finding the right partner. Plus, if you are looking to date an Asian, many of them will be Asia, right?
That’s it for now. Best of luck finding your soulmate, interracial or otherwise.
It was fabulous…then, life happens. After that bombastic, honeymoon phase of your relationship. you might have noticed that for some time now, it is stagnating. The sparks have flown off a bit and you need help to get yourselves out of the rut. Do not fret – when relationships seem to get a bit predictable and boring, there are ways to invigorate them.
Acknowledge the situation
You just have to recognize that you need to do something about this interracial relationship. The two of you must try to agree that the relationship is already far from what it was right at the start. Yes, there is no risk of falling apart at this point but you just need to bring at good old lovin’ moments with your partner. You had that wildfire moment in the relationship but that’s just how relationships are and will be. It is a cycle of ups and downs that you have to recognize. So, when it when it seems going downhill, pull your partner out of that slouchy relationship and get moving. Talk to the other one about the situation and try to get a commitment to do something about it.
Learn from the past
A way for you to get back to that early stages in the relationship is to try to remember the things that brought you at this stage. Try to plan for the date nights, travel to places that you like and those amazing times together that you have spent the way before. Go back to the place where you bonded the most. Recall the most enjoyable moments and what did you do to make that happen. You can learn lots of things from those moments in the past.
Do something different to yourself
Try some of the self-improvement strategies to enhance desirability to the partner. It won’t really hurt if your partner will take a hard and second look at you. Have a haircut and get that long overdue facial treatment. Re-energize yourself so you can re-energize the other. You can even do this together. This is a good start to be doing that “pick – me us” activities that you plan together.
Sensing the other
It is important that you will be sensitive to the needs and wants of your partner. At this point in your life, career and family, try to determine what has changed. The other partner might have been engaged in some indulging activities and you were left out or maybe there is a tremendous load of stress experienced. Then, focus on what your partner needs right now. In this manner, you can engage in meaningful conversations and best plan out how to put back that zing again.
A little flirting is not bad at all
Sending subtle but suggestive signals to your partners will surely spice up the relationship. This will tell your partner that you need that extra lovin’ more than the usual dose. In turn, your partner will be compelled to make it special this time. So, send those flirtatious smile, wink or nudge and we you will be surprised at what you might get in return.
Sexting in interracial relationship is no more a taboo, as it was considered a few years ago when people didn’t mingle interracially. In fact a few years back interracial dating and relationships were in themselves a taboo. However with time people especially in interracial relationships have found that sexting is one of the ingredients for a strong and mature relationship. No longer is it the kinky and dirty talk that teenagers or young adults with over the board hormones used to have. It is the norm and one of the essential activities of relationships worldwide. Still a few interracial couples shy away from it because of lack of information and knowledge of how sexting in interracial relationship can make a bond strong.
Start with a light sexting in interracial relationship
Sexting in an interracial relationship helps one to build confidence and increase the strength of the bonding. One of the partners can take the initiative. Doesn’t matter which one of the partners takes the initiative as long as the other partner is able to pick up the feelings and messages that are sent his or her way. Start with simple texts like “Lets finish what we started”. It can refer to an interrupted tryst or even ask for a round two. This will surely let your partner know how good the last meet up had been.
Go on to a bit bolder ones
Sexting in an interracial relationship is surely going to increase the temperature and bonding of the relationship. After those simple “You make me feel so good” messages move on to a few bolder ones. These messages have the ability of increasing the comfort and adrenalin rush in the relationship. Both the sender and receiver of the message – “I want you all to myself tonight” will have their hearts beating fast in anticipation of the reply and also in anticipation of the things that are going to happen afterwards.
Add a bit of kinkiness while sexting in interracial relationship
Adding a bit of kinkiness and naughtiness in your sexting while being in an interracial relationship will take the relationship to the next level. Believe me couples that are comfortable in texting “I’m getting wet just thinking about you.” These kinds of messages let the other person know how just the thought of them makes their partner hot and bothered. In case you need to stir a lot of feelings and make the relationship hot and spicy start texting your interracial partner. This is one healthy habit you are going to love all your life.
Sex and intimacy are the basis of a strong interracial relationship however there are a few other gestures that can create a stronger interracial relation. Interracial relationships are based on trust and love and to reinforce the feeling of love and trust with your interracial dating partner and make a stronger interracial relation you as an individual need to make sure to keep your interracial partner in the best mood and spirit.
Gifting flowers makes a stronger interracial relation
Gifting flowers even when it is not your partner’s birthday helps you to reinforce the statement that you are heads over heels with your interracial partner. Your commitment is clearly indicated to your partner when you gift flowers out of the blue to your dating partner. Do not return the favor better wait for your turn and whenever you have the urge to tell your interracial partner that you are in fact happy to be in the relationship buy something that can bring a smile on the face of your partner.
A dinner after a tough day at work adds to the relation
Job stress takes a heavy toll on an individual. If you are able to reduce it even by a small margin you are contributing a lot to the relationship. Make sure to help him or her unwind after a stressful day at work by having dinner together over a few drinks. The drinks and dinner along with your company will prove to be a major stress buster for your partner and will provide a new lease of energy. The new energy will surely work in a beneficial manner for the work life and also in creating a stronger interracial relation between the two of you.
Skip a social do to be with her for a small occasion
You have a plan to go with your pals this weekend and she needs to go out to her small nephew’s dance recital for which she needs company. IT will mean a lot to her if you can accompany her to the dance recital. Your pals are going to understand you and will make another plan the next weekend. Although your presence at the dance recital may go unnoticed for the nephew but believe me she will remember it for the whole of her life. She will surely be indebted to the time you took out for her and accompanied you on a less significant event. Small gestures surely add up to bigger results and help one create strong relations over a period of time.
After the initial hunky dory in an interracial date comes a time when you feel left out from the plans of your interracial date. This is the time to either talk to your interracial date about your feelings or even snap the relationship forever. Interracial dating is a fad these days however carrying on for a long term with interracial dating is not everybody’s cup of tea. While prospecting online and selecting a date online the true characteristics of a person may not come before you which lead to discontentment and a feeling of cheated later in the relationship. Before the onset of this feeling take control of the relationship and your life.
He does not have time for an interracial date
You planned a nice time out with him over the weekend or took a day off from work just to be with him knowing well that he is not working that day. However he makes an excuse by saying he is not well or has got some work with someone and late in the day you notice his Instagram account with him holding a beer with his pals from work. This is clear indicator that the interracial date has ended for you.
Social acceptance of the interracial date from him is nil
He does not acknowledge you as his girl friend before his friends and family and brushes you under the carpet. You are introduced just as another friend even after six months of dating. He makes it a point not to involve you in any social do’s that involve the side of his family or friends. This is a big red flag for any interracial date. You go to get out fast out of such a relationship before it takes a toll on your emotional and mental well being.
You are the only one to put in effort for the interracial date
It is you who makes an effort to meet. It is you who does all the planning. It is you who calls him up to talk to him. It is you who pays all the bills whenever you meet. It is you who is putting all the effort to make the interracial date work. In case you realize it after a gap of three or four months end the relationship proactively since it is no use continuing in a relationship where you alone are responsible to make the relationship work. Relationships are two way and if one of the partner is lacking in effort it is no point in continuing it.
A man’s comfort in an interracial relationship is as important as the woman’s. Keeping each other’s comfort in mind is the responsibility of each individual. Making a man comfortable in a relationship is quite important since a man is also vulnerable to emotional distress which may take a toll on the interracial relationship. An interracial relationship between two individuals is the sharing of emotions and trust that will take it to its logical ending. Communication in an interracial relationship is one aspect that keeps it alive and happening all through the course of interactions you have with your interracial partner.
Asking your man about his well being in an interracial relationship
Men are prone to hide their feelings even from their dating partners. They may be in an emotional mess however they are never ever going to tell you about it. You need to keep nudging and prodding them to speak up their feelings and the way they are feeling. Once he is able to open up with you regarding his emotions and the emotional upheaval he is going through in life he will feel more comfortable in the relationship.
Telling him about how safe you feel when he is around
Men often are over protective and over possessive about the females in their life. Apart from telling him how much you love him telling him how much safe you feel when he is around will surely give an impetus to your relationship. You may be an independent woman but depending upon him for your safety and security will go a long way in keeping the bonds of the relationship strong and secure.
Believing in your man in an interracial relationship
Failures and success are a part of life. Men have fragile egos and a small setback devastates their confidence. As a woman in an interracial relationship you need to communicate to him that you are firm believer in his abilities in spite of his shortcomings and imperfections. This will not only boost his confidence but will also make him a firm believer in you. Your man will look up to you for more of such confidence pepped talks.
Being thankful to have him in the interracial relationship
Making him feel how thankful you are to have him in your life and being in a relationship with him will surely help you to strengthen the relationship. Showing him appreciation will add to the validation of your man in the relationship. It makes him feel his worth in the world.
It is important to nurture and water your interracial relationship once you have announced and begun dating your interracial date formally. Getting out of the confines of an interracial dating website it is not a cakewalk. Dating via an interracial dating website and in the real world are two different aspects that need to be balanced well to make the relationship work. A few habits and traits of yours need to be changed or altered to ensure that you are in sync with your interracial dating partner to create a conducive environment for the relationship to flourish.
Showing affection on a daily basis in an interracial relationship
Sex maybe a part of your relationship once you start dating each other physically. Yes sex makes the relationship bonding strong still a daily dose of affection is needed within an interracial relationship. You need to cuddle, you need to hold hands, you need to hug each other you need to kiss, you need to care. Showing affection at regular intervals throughout the day will keep your partner happy and the relationship bonds strong.
Supporting your interracial partner will help
Your interracial partner may need support emotionally or physically but will never ask for it. Giving her a hand while walking, holding the stool or chair while she is getting out something from the high cabinets. Talking to her when she is back from work. Supporting her during a career change. Giving her your shoulder to cry at the loss of her pet. These may sound small supports but they mean a lot to an individual especially during physical or emotional stress.
Recognising the ups and downs of the relationship
It is important to understand that all relationships go through good and bad phases. If you are in an interracial relationship it never means that you will always be supportive and cooperative towards each other. There may be times when you may differ on opinions, choices and points of view. During those circumstances you just need to remember that all relationships go through ups and downs. The downs are just a passing phase and everything will surely come back to normal in a few days. Do not stretch the downs too far since this may lead to heartburn and a lot of misunderstandings. Sit and talk down the tough situations. Communication is an essential part of any relationship. Never ever close the communication channels in case you need to give a second chance to the relationship.